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April 2018

Stress Free Work Week

You are going to have an amazing week!

You are not going to let stress ruin your week!

Work weeks are tough. There is no getting around it; something goes wrong, a client gets frustrated or a coworker makes you mad. Stress is a constant factor in our lives, especially at work. But there are ways to help alleviate this and make your week fantastic!

The first step is to recognize that while it is an important part of your life, it isn’t everything. That means that when something goes wrong, it’s okay to shrug it off and move on. There are very few problems that warrant the stress we give them. One of the lies I believe the world has told us is that we need to stress out about everything that doesn’t go our way. The danger of this lie is that it causes you physical and emotional harm to stress about every little thing. It hurts you to worry yourself about things you have no control over or trivial things that won’t matter in 2 months. When you find yourself stressing this week, start following these few tips.

  1.  Get up and walk away. Walking away from the situation will help you to put the situation into perspective and to be able to handle with a clear and calm mind.
  2.  Take a sip of icy water. Always have a bottle of water at your desk. Taking small sips of water when you are stressed will help your body to calm down and fight the stresses.
  3. A technique I learned from a therapist in college is to close your eyes and breathe in for six seconds and then exhale for seven seconds. Repeat this technique until you can feel the tension and stress leave your mind. It sounds silly, but this is, without doubt, one of the best techniques I’ve ever tried.

The next thing is to think about what you want to be remembered for. Do you want to be remembered for being stressed out at work? Remembered as the person who was unhinged and constantly worried about things outside their control? Or would you rather be remembered as someone who always brought joy and happiness to those you worked with? Someone who always lent a helping hand to others and valued your needs over their own. Those traits are so much more important than high sales numbers and increased profit margins. Money comes and goes, but character makes a lasting difference. Take charge of your week and choose joy over stress.

At the end of this week, you are going to look back and say that you kicked butt this week. Remember that you are a Rockstar and God has got an incredible plan for your life.

In the hard moments, pray for wisdom and guidance. 

When you are stressed, know that God has every situation under control.

You are loved, and you got this.

xoxo– Kayla

25th Birthday Post

Today I turn 25!

I am so excited and nervous to be getting another year older! I have spent the last few days reflecting on my 25 years. There are things that I am incredibly proud of, and areas I wish I would have done things differently. However, each moment has lead me to where I am today and for that I am eternally grateful!

In 25 years on this earth, I have learned one big lesson. That kindness, generosity, and a heart of service are what matters. I have career goals, personal goals, and a huge bucket list. But the things that I reflect on and know without a doubt I did correctly have been choosing kindness. Choosing to serve others even when I feel they don’t deserve it.

I have grown a lot over the years, but I know I still have a ways to go. Every day I am learning to confidently pursue my dreams and have faith that God’s plan is always in motion!

So today, please extend a kind and helping hand to those around you. In the end it will help not only them but you!

 

xoxo- Kayla

Fear of Being Late to the Party

I am afraid of being late to the party.

I am afraid of being late to the party. What if I am too late to pursue the things I really want to do? What if I can’t catch up to those who are succeeding in my field? What if I can’t achieve the dream I have set in my head?

These thoughts enter my brain every time I start to think I could do more in life. I am afraid I’m too late to the party. I am too late to become anything special, and all the good ideas and companies have already been created and implemented.

Does anyone else ever get this way? You get excited about a new idea and a new goal that feels right, only to watch everyone around you seem as if they are way ahead of the game? You begin to question why; why do you have a passion for this if all the ideas have already been taken? Can you really offer something new to the world?

Well, I am here to tell you that those feelings are normal. And, I would argue this means you headed in the right direction. If you have a deep passion for something, get excited about it. If you get paralyzed by fear, it is a sign that you need to push through. Push past the fear and see what’s beyond. The things you love in life are there for a reason. If you don’t try, you will never know where you could have ended up!

So here are my tips to overcoming “the late to the party” syndrome:

Tip 1.) Believe you are UNIQUE! That means that your ideas and thoughts are uniquely yours. Don’t be afraid to show the world what only your brain could provide!

Tip 2.) Face your fears. There will always be fears in your life. There is always the fear that you won’t achieve your dreams. The question is whether or not you step up and overcome that fear. Fear has a way of paralyzing us and stopping us from moving forward. Fear of other people’s opinions of you, fear that you will make fool of yourself, or fear that you aren’t good enough. Tell yourself today that fear will not control you. You are greater than your fear. You can accomplish your goals and dreams!

Tip 3.) You aren’t too late. There is no reason you can’t go after that new job, start that business, or pursue a new hobby. Your life is whatever you want it to be! Just because others are further along in their careers, hobbies, or other dreams; has no bearing on whether or not you can accomplish your own dreams! Life isn’t a race to see who gets there first. It’s about being the best person you can be and doing your best to make the world a better place.

Tip 4.) Don’t let others say you can’t. There will always be naysayers and people who don’t believe in your dream. They will tell you that you aren’t smart enough, talented enough, or you don’t have the funds to pursue your dream. Don’t allow their thoughts to affect you. Tell yourself everyday, “I Am Made For More”. You were made for so much more than you know. Have faith in yourself and your dream.

So today, don’t believe the lie that you are too late to the party. Believe that you were uniquely created to accomplish your dreams at this time! Remember this verse from Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

xoxo — Kayla

Overcoming Worry with Faith

There isn’t room for both worry and faith.

Let me preface this by saying that I have struggled with constant worry all my life. My gut reaction is to worry and stress over every situation. Every time I am faced with something that is challenging or stressful, I immediately start to worry. My mind jumps to the worst-case scenario and stays there for hours. I think of the worst thing that could be said to me, the worst possible situation. For years, it was this constant loop of stress and worry.

The first time I felt relief from my constant worry was when I started dating my husband. He would push me to be better, he would push me to look at the situation objectively not as what could happen. In every situation he would help me to look at the situation in a different light, helping push me to have faith instead of fear and worry. I could never figure out why my husband didn’t stress out. It wasn’t until we had been married for a while that I finally realized it wasn’t that he didn’t feel that pang of stress or worry, it’s that he knows that things will be fine. He has complete faith that we can handle any situation that comes our way.

My pastor preached a sermon a few weeks ago where he talked about how we can’t have both worry and faith and my husband nudged me. The pastor was speaking in that moment that if we have faith in the Lord, we can’t have this constant worry. It doesn’t mean you can’t have no worries in your life, it means not letting worry consume you. Instead of letting worry be your reaction, let faith come in instead. He went on to say that God mentions “Do NOT worry” countless times throughout scripture.

Philippians 4:6-7 says “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

My reaction to this verse has always been the same, that God must not understand that I have horrible anxiety, doesn’t he understand that my first reaction is to worry, that my mind always jumps to the worst-case scenario. That this verse was obviously not written with me in mind because I can’t get over my anxiety and worry. When in fact, I think this verse was stated specifically for people like me and you. People who deal with massive anxiety and panic attacks, people who stress over the big and little things in life.

 

Do not worry. Choose faith over fear. Choose faith over stress. Choose faith over doubt. In every situation we have the power to pray, pray for faith in that moment. Pray that the Lord would guide our hearts in faith instead of fear and worry. Find someone who pushes you to have faith over worry and fear!

 

The Lord is guiding you every step of the way!

 

xoxo

 

Kayla

 

 

 

Adventure is out There

This past Sunday, my pastor did a nontraditional Easter sermon. He spoke about how we are all created with this innate desire to seek adventure, to see what’s behind that door, to see what’s beyond that mountain. As kids we are so excited to try new things, to see what would happen if we went down that trail in the woods, if we went just a little further down the beach, if we climbed up that rock. We craved adventure and craved seeing things we’ve never seen before. But somewhere along the way, we lost this sense of adventure. We lost our desire to explore and try new things, because we are busy and set in our routines.

We sit on the couch every weekend binge watching Netflix, cleaning the house, or doing chores we pushed off during the week. But we don’t do anything new, we don’t step outside our comfort zone and explore. Nothing happens outside of the one to two vacations we take each year. We accept a life where we only explore and try new things two times a year. But what if we just tried one new thing a week? What if you just took two hours out of your weekend to do something that excites you, that challenges you, that makes you feel like a kid again?

So today, I want to go over 5 Adventures you can try this weekend!

  • Skydiving! This is a bucket list item. If you are like me and have always wanted to go, get out of your comfort zone and do it! There are always skydiving deals on Groupon and you can get videos/pictures of you doing this amazing bucket list item! If you are scared to try it, think about it this way; when you are in a plane flying to vacation, you are always looking out the window in awe of what’s below. It’s such a unique sight, and skydiving gives you a chance to see the world from a whole new view and with the trill of having nothing beneath your feet!
  • Go to a New Sporting Event! I am not a fan of basketball, I’ve been to a couple games with my dad as a kid, but it was never my favorite sporting event. But an opportunity arose for me to go to a Phoenix Suns game this week with people from my work. Did I hop on a chance to experience a new venue and a new team that I’d never seen before? Absolutely! You will only regret the things you didn’t do! See what sporting events are happening in your area and experience something you’ve never seen before!
  • Hot Air Balloon Ride – These rides offer amazing views of your city, or the city you are visiting. I have heard nothing but wonderful things from everyone who has been on one of these rides! You have to pay a little more than usual for these, but they are such a unique experience. Most people go on dates on the weekend anyways, why not make this date one you will never forget?! The best rides are first thing in the morning, so you can see the city wake up right before your eyes! (By the way the best place to get deals on Hot Air Balloon Rides is Groupon)
  • Hike a Trail/Mountain – There are trails or mountains to climb everywhere in the world. No area has a shortage of outdoor spaces to explore. Try a hike that is a little more challenging but offers amazing views, don’t sell yourself short on what you can do and see! In Arizona there are hikes surrounding each area of Phoenix, but if you travel two hours north, there are unbelievable views from the hikes in Flagstaff. Take a quick minute and go to trails.com to find hikes in your area! All it requires is your time and energy!
  • Concerts/Shows– I know for a fact there are concerts/shows every month in every area of the country! It may not be your favorite artist, or the circus in town, but there is something! Go see that new Broadway show, or see Pitbull live! (my husbands dream concert) Go see a local play or go to a bar with live music and see what talent is all around you! Enjoy seeing new things with friends or your significant other, there is so much creative talent if you just go out and find it. If you are really adventurous head out to Nashville for some of the best local live shows around! 😉

 

Adventure awaits you!

-xoxo

Kayla