Believe you can do anything. Have confidence that you can be and do whatever you want in this world.
One of the things that our travels have taught me is that my confidence is determined by me. Not the circumstances around me. There have been moments where my stress and anxiety have gone through the roof and I get insecure. Can I get my husband and I through the next year? Will I be able to handle work, our travels and my husbands crazy rotation schedule? How are we going to handle additional costs that 4th year presents? The questions and doubts seem to be endless.
These doubts are feelings that we all experience. We put on this facade that we are confident and secure in what we are doing, when really we are insecure and complete unsure of how we are going to get through this. With all of our pressures in life, between work, family and our friends; we have to keep up appearances of confidence. We push ourselves to a breaking point to live up to someone elses expectations. Over these last few years, I have started to work on several methods to build confidence, overcome my insecurities, and have faith in myself. Here are my suggestions for those trying to build their confidence in work and life.
1.) If work is draining, causing you anxiety, or just generally making you unhappy; it’s time to move on. I don’t say that as a millennial or as a progressive 26 year old. What is really important is your happiness, so if you feel that those around you at work are causing you to be less than your optimal self, please look for other options. Invest in yourself and believe you deserve a job that you love and enjoy. Life is way to short to be miserable and
2.) Find a hobby or activity that brings you joy. You need something to look forward to, that you can be confident in. That you can look forward to on days where life drags you down. Life isn’t going to go as planned, having something you can enjoy that is an escape from the every day life will keep you sane, happy and full of life!
3.) Take time for yourself. This might be the most critical portion of developing your confidence. Taking time to yourself, to grow yourself and to remember how amazing you are! You are going to be your biggest supporter! No matter what your job, kids, or spouse need from you, you must take care of yourself. Whether that’s a break at the local coffee store, a walk around the block, or an afternoon at the spa, your happiness is just as important as those around you.
4.) Support those around you. It may seem like an oxymoron, but when you help those around you, you develop confidence in yourself. You were not brought into this world in order to only help yourself, you are here to help others, to be a light in a dark world. Don’t use your gifts and talents only for yourself, use them for the benefit and support of others.
5.) Focus on faith. One of the biggest ways that I overcome the expectations of this world, is focusing on my faith. A reminder that we are not to be of this world, but to be a positive life in a dark world. Faith tells us that when we focus our minds on things above, the things of this world become less important and stressful in our eyes.
Matthew 5:15 “Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. 16: Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”
You are a light in this world, be confident and show this world how amazing you are and what you can do for those around you! The only thing stopping you from being everything you want to be is you!