I see you working hard to keep everything together. I see you pinching pennies to make it through these years. I see you praying that it will all be worth it in the end. I see your sacrifice. I see your heartache. I see your endless support and love. But most of all — I SEE YOU.

Medical school is without doubt some of the hardest years I have ever encountered. You and your spouse are sacrificing ‘normal’ life for the sake of your spouse’s dreams. Instead of normal you are choosing 14-hour days, weekends full of studying, and financial burdens you never foresaw. It’s a broken system, but a system you have to go through to accomplish your spouse’s dreams. You are willing to do it and so thrilled to see them succeed. But in the back of your mind, you feel the exhaustion.

You have sacrificed years supporting your spouse. Spent years living the college lifestyle-scrimping, saving, just trying to get by. Years spending nights and weekends alone wishing your spouse had more time to spend with you. You ask does anyone see what you have sacrificed? Does anyone see that this has been a struggle for you to keep everything together while your spouse is dedicated to school?

Let me just say, I SEE YOU. I see you praying through this time and hoping that it will pass. I see you struggling, trying to remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I see you holding it all together when all you want to do is fall apart. I see you when you are lonely and just praying your spouse will get home soon.

And while I see all this, I want to tell you what else I see. I see you being the rock that is needed in that moment. I see that you are invaluable to your spouse’s success. I see that you are making sacrifices that will be well worth the wait.

Sticking through the thick and thin is not easy. Medical school is not a cakewalk and it is not designed to help those with spouses and families. Medical school is the only way that our country will get robust and intelligent medical doctors, and the only way they finish is through your love and support. You are needed in this process, you are making a difference and let me say it again, you are INVALUABLE!

The next time you are cleaning the kitchen, spending the weekend alone, or overwhelmed by the financial burden — remember that it is worth it. You are a key part of your spouse’s success. You are assisting and creating peace in their life more than you realize. This life that we have chosen is not easy, it is not the path that most choose. But it is a rewarding life, a life that will help and assist those in need. Be proud of what you are doing, be proud of the support and love that you are providing. You are more than you believe you are. You are not alone. You are loved. You are valuable. You are SEEN.


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