Today is all about helping you be the most confident woman you can be. There are such extreme views on women, both from progressive and conservative minds.
You are told who you should be, how you should act, what you should buy, and what your career path should look like. But there is rarely a conversation of how you become more confident in your life. And if you focused on being more confident, how much stronger would you be in all the other areas of your life. Being your most confident self will lead you to the places you always wanted to go, but will also help you to stay grounded. Becoming more confident does not happen overnight. It is not something a simple makeover will do for you. To truly become more confident you need to change some of your lifestyle habits.
So today we are going over 5 steps to a more confident life.
1.) Show Up and Exercise.
I don’t care how you exercise, I don’t care what intensity or how pretty you look doing it. What I care about is you showing up. Show up for yourself. Exercise isn’t just healthy for your physical health its critical for your emotional health. Confidence comes from within and how can you feel good and confident if you aren’t taking care of your body? Again, I am not saying you need to be a size two with a perfect ‘model’ body. I am saying that you need to give your body the exercise it desperately needs. Your body is made to move and it needs to move to function at it’s highest capacity. So treat it well and show up for yourself. My workouts are never pretty : its ugly, its tough, I fail over and over again. But when I show up, my body and mind feel 100% better. Do this for yourself and no one else and watch your confidence begin to grow.
2.) Make Small Diet Changes
I can tell you right now that I have never been able to make immediate long term diet changes. I’ve never been able to say, no more carbs, and keep it up. The only thing that has ever worked is to make small choices as often as I could. Small choices where I choose the healthy option. When I give in and eat 10 Oreos when I shouldn’t have, I don’t get mad at myself, I just push myself to make the next choice healthy. Like eating salmon for dinner instead of a burger. Small choices will lead to bigger life changes. So be okay that you will occasionally fail. Be okay that these changes won’t happen overnight. Just start each day with a fresh mindset knowing that you can always make the next choice a healthy one. And remember that confidence comes from within and taking care of your body is the first step.
3.) Five Positive Affirmations
Every day say five positive things about yourself. It doesn’t matter how crappy you may feel that day. Be positive in that moment about who you are. Telling yourself what is good about yourself once a day will slowly help you see past the negatives the world puts in your mind. Your mental health is just as important as physical health and the brighter your mental health the more confident you will be. Confidence really comes when you believe in yourself and believe that you are worthy.
To get you started here are a few of my affirmations.
1.) I am worthy of good things.
2.) I am beautiful just the way I am.
3.) My worth is not defined by others.
4.) It is okay to to put myself first and to take care of myself.
5.) My future is whatever I want it to be.
4.) Speak Kindly to Others
Speak kindly to others. I have noticed that when I am harsh or angry toward those around me it makes me far less confident. Because confident people don’t need to tear others down or be mean to those around them. Confident people invest in others, speak kindly to those they meet and treat others with respect. Confidence is being the best version of yourself and knowing that confidence is being confident in who you are not how others see you. When you do encounter situations where you have been hurt, angered or mistreated; step back. Step back and reevaluate the situation. Step back, call a loved one and remember that life is bigger than that person who mistreated you. Kindness is always the best option, even if it doesn’t feel that way in the moment.
5.) Be Content
Be content with who you are right here, right now. You have worked hard to get to where you are. Be content with where you are. This doesn’t mean that you don’t have goals and plans for the future, it simply means you are content with where you are right now. When you accept where you are today you will develop extreme confidence. Who wouldn’t have confidence when they accept themselves where they are? Instead of constantly judging themselves against what they don’t have. Instead of looking to others for their contentment, look inward. Once you do, you will see the confidence start to grow. Choose to look at your blessings and be content with what you have right now.
You have all the tools you need to be confident. All it takes are a few changes every single day. Once you start making these changes, you will slowly start reaping the rewards. Confident people are developed over time. Be gracious with yourself and remember that you can do this!