We are coming up on the end of 2019, which means we are at the end of a decade. When you look back on the last 10 years, what do you see? Do you see growth in your life? Do you see positive changes or a more confident you? Or do you see a regression… more anxiety, more worries, more frustration and less confidence?
This is the best time to sit down and reflect on where you have been these last 10 years. Look back and see what has happened and how you reacted. Just like with the history of our country and world, looking back on your history and growing from it are just as important.
Chances are you have either changed jobs or completely changed careers in the last 10 years. It is becoming more and more common for us to change jobs every 3-5 years or to make a significant career change. When you look back over these last 10 years, is your career where you want it to be? Have you taken the risks/chances that you wanted to take? If you haven’t, are you content where you are? Are you happy with the path that you are on? If you are not, what are you doing to change your path? Its easy to just say, one day I will do this or one day I will go for a new career/job. But its an entirely different thing to follow through on that statement. We have one month left in 2019, embrace the change, embrace the unknown, and believe that you can make the next 10 years great.
When I look back at the last 10 years, the most significant change I see is how much more confident I am. I was not confident at 16 years old. I was unsure of myself, I was constantly degrading myself and I never believed I could do what I wanted. I never had the courage to reach for my dreams and believe I could make them happen. Instead, I bought into the lie that I wasn’t good enough and that I didn’t deserve a good and bright future. What a lie this is! When you look back on the past 10 years, evaluate your confidence. Have you started to believe in yourself? Have you stopped berating yourself over things outside your control? Be honest with yourself on how you are doing. If you need to be selfish and make some changes, do it! Make changes to become a better version of yourself and to be more confident in who you are.
This is a subject that you will never look back on and say that you never did anything wrong. We are all human, and human relationships will have their ups and downs, its part of the deal. Ultimately what matters is letting go of past hurt and frustrations and pushing towards healthy relationships with those around you. If you look back and there is still a lot of past hurt, seek help. Go to a counselor and seek help. There is no shame in saying you need a little assistance, because it could make the next 10 years so much better. However your relationships have evolved over the last 10 years, focus on ways to improve upon them and go into 2020 with confidence!
Is your life taking the trajectory you want it to? If it’s not, I highly recommend you take a step back and ask yourself this: Where are you on your spiritual journey? For me, I try to look back and ask if I am following the path my Creator wants me to. Am I leading a Christ filled life? Am I helping others and being the light that this world needs? If I am not, then it is time to take a step back and ask myself why I am not following that path. What has stopped me from being the person I am meant to be? A lot of the time its because I don’t have the courage to stand up for myself and my beliefs. It’s easy to let the world around me dictate my choices and actions instead of focusing on what is good and noble. Whatever it is stopping you from living the life you were meant to, evaluate how you can change that and start living your best life. Be a light in this dark world. Bring kindness where there is hatred and evil. Above all else, have courage and be kind in every situation.
Tell me what you are reflecting upon. Tell me what your plans are for the next decade. I’d love to learn a little more about you! Comment below!