Have you ever found the holidays a stressful time? Maybe found yourself dreading the holidays because of family issues, financial stresses or sadness? Or maybe your just overwhelmed by all the obligations that come with the holidays.
There is always something that is going to cause you stress through the holidays. The trick is having the tools to overcome them and handle them appropriately. And while no one knows the answer to every situation, there are definitely tools to help you through them. Below are my 5 tips and tricks to get you through the holidays!
1.) Go In With a Plan
Don’t go in without thinking through who will be there, how long you plan to be there, and what the schedule of events is. Family is important, but its also important to know your limits and what you can handle. If you know you can’t handle more than a few hours with family, then plan to only be there that amount of time and stick to it. You have no one that you have to please, trust me. You need to make sure that at the end of the holidays, you are sane and still happy.
2.) Have Calming Action Items/Thoughts
Have ways to stay calm during the holidays. There are two techniques that I have found work the best. One is when you are starting to feel overwhelmed, breathe in for 7 seconds and out for 7 seconds. It seems like a small action item, but it works better than you know. Another one that I am a huge fan of was a tip from Candace Cameron Bure. She said one of her best techniques is to STOP. Stop and evaluate why you are feeling what you are feeling. Stop and ask yourself if you are hungry or tired or if there is some other emotion causing your stress or anger. Whatever it may be when you stop and focus you will have the clarity to work through the issue.
3.) Watch What You Eat & Drink
It may seem redundant or even silly to mention watching what you eat and drink during the holidays. But I really believe it makes a difference. The times of my life where I have overindulged in ice cream, sweets and candies are the times where I feel the worst. What you feed yourself is how you will feel. So keeping yourself focused on not overindulging in food, wine or other items; and you will keep yourself healthy and calm. A calm body will help keep a calm mind and will get you through the holidays without feeling like you are falling apart.
4.) Be Kind
Be overtly, undeniably kind. Be kind even when you don’t want to be. Be kind even when it is the hardest option. You will never regret choosing kindness over anger. When you see a crossroads during the holidays, where you have the choice to be kind or to be hateful or spiteful. Choose kindness even if its not deserved. The thing about kindness is it doesn’t just help the person you are being kind too. It actually helps you out just as much. It changes your heart and soul a little bit at a time. Each act of kindness, no matter how small or hard it is at the time, is ever wasted.
5.) Find the Blessings
This is without doubt the most important tip. Find the blessings where you are. You may be missing a loved one, unable to be with loved ones, full of grief, sadness or loss. Or you may be exuberantly happy this holiday. Whatever the case may be, remember to find the blessings. This life will be full of ups and downs, but no matter what happens, there is always a blessing to be found. So look around you, find a blessing and hold on to that. And if you cannot find one, I will provide one for you. There is God out there who loves and adores you. And He is willing and ready to meet you right where you are.
You will survive this holiday season. Keep you head held high and count your blessings.
Happy Holidays! xoxo- Kayla