Overcoming Worry with Faith

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There isn’t room for both worry and faith.

Let me preface this by saying that I have struggled with constant worry all my life. My gut reaction is to worry and stress over every situation. Every time I am faced with something that is challenging or stressful, I immediately start to worry. My mind jumps to the worst-case scenario and stays there for hours. I think of the worst thing that could be said to me, the worst possible situation. For years, it was this constant loop of stress and worry.

The first time I felt relief from my constant worry was when I started dating my husband. He would push me to be better, he would push me to look at the situation objectively not as what could happen. In every situation he would help me to look at the situation in a different light, helping push me to have faith instead of fear and worry. I could never figure out why my husband didn’t stress out. It wasn’t until we had been married for a while that I finally realized it wasn’t that he didn’t feel that pang of stress or worry, it’s that he knows that things will be fine. He has complete faith that we can handle any situation that comes our way.

My pastor preached a sermon a few weeks ago where he talked about how we can’t have both worry and faith and my husband nudged me. The pastor was speaking in that moment that if we have faith in the Lord, we can’t have this constant worry. It doesn’t mean you can’t have no worries in your life, it means not letting worry consume you. Instead of letting worry be your reaction, let faith come in instead. He went on to say that God mentions “Do NOT worry” countless times throughout scripture.

Philippians 4:6-7 says “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

My reaction to this verse has always been the same, that God must not understand that I have horrible anxiety, doesn’t he understand that my first reaction is to worry, that my mind always jumps to the worst-case scenario. That this verse was obviously not written with me in mind because I can’t get over my anxiety and worry. When in fact, I think this verse was stated specifically for people like me and you. People who deal with massive anxiety and panic attacks, people who stress over the big and little things in life.

 

Do not worry. Choose faith over fear. Choose faith over stress. Choose faith over doubt. In every situation we have the power to pray, pray for faith in that moment. Pray that the Lord would guide our hearts in faith instead of fear and worry. Find someone who pushes you to have faith over worry and fear!

 

The Lord is guiding you every step of the way!

 

xoxo

 

Kayla

 

 

 

Adventure is out There

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This past Sunday, my pastor did a nontraditional Easter sermon. He spoke about how we are all created with this innate desire to seek adventure, to see what’s behind that door, to see what’s beyond that mountain. As kids we are so excited to try new things, to see what would happen if we went down that trail in the woods, if we went just a little further down the beach, if we climbed up that rock. We craved adventure and craved seeing things we’ve never seen before. But somewhere along the way, we lost this sense of adventure. We lost our desire to explore and try new things, because we are busy and set in our routines.

We sit on the couch every weekend binge watching Netflix, cleaning the house, or doing chores we pushed off during the week. But we don’t do anything new, we don’t step outside our comfort zone and explore. Nothing happens outside of the one to two vacations we take each year. We accept a life where we only explore and try new things two times a year. But what if we just tried one new thing a week? What if you just took two hours out of your weekend to do something that excites you, that challenges you, that makes you feel like a kid again?

So today, I want to go over 5 Adventures you can try this weekend!

  • Skydiving! This is a bucket list item. If you are like me and have always wanted to go, get out of your comfort zone and do it! There are always skydiving deals on Groupon and you can get videos/pictures of you doing this amazing bucket list item! If you are scared to try it, think about it this way; when you are in a plane flying to vacation, you are always looking out the window in awe of what’s below. It’s such a unique sight, and skydiving gives you a chance to see the world from a whole new view and with the trill of having nothing beneath your feet!
  • Go to a New Sporting Event! I am not a fan of basketball, I’ve been to a couple games with my dad as a kid, but it was never my favorite sporting event. But an opportunity arose for me to go to a Phoenix Suns game this week with people from my work. Did I hop on a chance to experience a new venue and a new team that I’d never seen before? Absolutely! You will only regret the things you didn’t do! See what sporting events are happening in your area and experience something you’ve never seen before!
  • Hot Air Balloon Ride – These rides offer amazing views of your city, or the city you are visiting. I have heard nothing but wonderful things from everyone who has been on one of these rides! You have to pay a little more than usual for these, but they are such a unique experience. Most people go on dates on the weekend anyways, why not make this date one you will never forget?! The best rides are first thing in the morning, so you can see the city wake up right before your eyes! (By the way the best place to get deals on Hot Air Balloon Rides is Groupon)
  • Hike a Trail/Mountain – There are trails or mountains to climb everywhere in the world. No area has a shortage of outdoor spaces to explore. Try a hike that is a little more challenging but offers amazing views, don’t sell yourself short on what you can do and see! In Arizona there are hikes surrounding each area of Phoenix, but if you travel two hours north, there are unbelievable views from the hikes in Flagstaff. Take a quick minute and go to trails.com to find hikes in your area! All it requires is your time and energy!
  • Concerts/Shows– I know for a fact there are concerts/shows every month in every area of the country! It may not be your favorite artist, or the circus in town, but there is something! Go see that new Broadway show, or see Pitbull live! (my husbands dream concert) Go see a local play or go to a bar with live music and see what talent is all around you! Enjoy seeing new things with friends or your significant other, there is so much creative talent if you just go out and find it. If you are really adventurous head out to Nashville for some of the best local live shows around! 😉

 

Adventure awaits you!

-xoxo

Kayla

Koffee with Kayla Thursday: Building Faith from a Ripped Dress

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I love my black long sleeved dress. I feel beautiful and comfortable in this dress, it’s just the right length, the sleeves aren’t too long or too short, and it shows off all the right places. It’s one of my favorite go to dresses. Today it ripped…

I may be over dramatic here but it was heartbreaking. Mainly because I can’t afford to replace it. We are just at that point in our lives, where I can’t afford to replace everything that breaks or tears. I was getting more angry by the second when this bible verse slipped into my mind.

Matthew 6:25-34“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 

“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

I was reminded in this moment the gravity of this verse. When things are easy and the money is flowing in, we lose the significance. The Lord knows what we need, he knows there are basic needs that need to be met. And he says if he takes care of the birds of the air and the flowers in the field, won’t he take care of us. If this doesn’t cause you to stop and just praise the Lord, let me phrase it this way.

We are so quick to think that the Lord is against us, that things just aren’t going right. Whether it’s something big, like a family member having cancer, or something small like a ripped dress, we are so quick to change our tune. We are so quick to believe God has forgotten about us, that we are on our own and things will never get better.

And it’s so easy to get trapped in this train of thought. The second my dress ripped, there was no stopping my mind from getting frustrated and upset. I couldn’t think of anything besides my ripped dress. I was angry and upset, texting my husband in anger and thinking about how I can’t replace this dress and my favorite pair of shoes that ripped two days ago. Until I could feel God saying to me, “Kayla, I will take care of you. I am here with you. I will lead you through this time. Trust me.” (once in a while I actually hear that still small voice)

My time during this medical school journey has been one where I have been actively reflected with God about my faith and trusting Him.

When my shirt rips, my family goes through a rough patch, or my husband and I have an unexpected financial expense, I can choose two options.

I can choose to respond as I did with the ripped dress, in anger. I can be angry that things aren’t going my way. I can be angry that things are hard. I can be angry with the world that life isn’t the perfect journey I wanted.

Or I can remember this verse. I can tell myself, if God is taking care of all the animals of the world, and he values me so much more, do I not trust him to take care of my needs too? Do I not trust him with my finances, with my future, with my marriage, with my dreams?

Every day we are faced with decisions. And each day we get the opportunity to respond in Faith instead of Fear.

Today, I pray you respond in Faith. Respond with grace and understanding. Know that while the journey may not be unfolding the way you planned, that God has PERFECT timing. That perfect timing will come to pass. Whatever you may be dealing with today, try a technique my mom always used. When life is hard or she didn’t know what to do, she was on her knees in prayer. She was on her knees asking for guidance, asking for wisdom in the situation. And I have no doubt He answered every prayer, maybe not in the way my mom wanted, but He answered EVERY prayer. He is answering your prayers today, and he is guiding you along this path. Keep the Faith!

 

xoxo,

Kayla

 

The Best Airbnb in Sedona

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I am absolutely in love with Sedona! It is without fail, one of the most gorgeous destinations in the US.  My husband and I fell in love with Sedona the moment we saw it, it has an unparalleled beauty that is unlike anything I’ve ever seen!

We’ve had many family members and friends come out to Arizona over the last three years, and once they have seen Sedona it’s the only place they want to go back to! Because of it’s unbelievable views, there really is nowhere bad to stay in Sedona, however, I’ve compiled a list of my go to Airbnb’s in Sedona. (Best part is they all host amazing reviews!)

La Colibri Rouge Luxury Master Suite

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This suite is absolutely gorgeous! Beautiful wood surrounds the walls, floors and door, and you are treated with a large bed to relax in along with a private bathroom for your use. The location is outside of the traffic of downtown Sedona allowing you to relax in nature and truly enjoy your vacation. The room starts at only $99/night and is perfect for any couple looking for a relaxing oasis.

Red Rock Base Camp

At the Red Rock base camp, you get a gorgeous view of the Red Rocks and a quiet comfortable space. The inside of the house is clean, well lit and spacious. Hosting an updated and beautiful kitchen, private patio and comfortable furniture. This house is gorgeous retreat for anyone who wants to have the beauty of Sedona right from their living room for a great price! Starting at $95 a night, this house is definitely a steal for anyone coming to Sedona!

Tranquil Beauty

Kitchen and dining area

While the living room and kitchen are shared with your Airbnb host, the house is absolutely stunning. Pristine and clean, this place is nothing short of a home away from home! This home is right beside Coconino National Forest, which hosts gorgeous views of the Red Rocks! You are also an easy drive into downtown Sedona where all the shops and excursions are. The best part is this gorgeous Airbnb starts at only $43/night!!

Wherever you stay, you will not be disappointed in the gorgeous views Sedona has to offer you!

 

xoxo,

 

Kayla

Passion For Travel

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I have always had a deep passion for travel.

There are few things in life that truly make you feel alive, and for me that is getting out and experiencing other cultures, historic structures and stunning views. But what if your passion seems unattainable? What if there is no feasible way to pursue the things you love in life?

When this happens, it causes me to sit down and think about why I have this passion, and what I can do with that passion.

If your like me and have a passion for traveling, but you can’t travel to all the places you’ve dreamed of going right now, take steps to still fulfill that travel ache within you. Your passions in life are there for a reason, and even if they do not seem feasible in the short term, there is a reason for them.

One thing I try to do is offer to go on business trips as often as possible. These trips aren’t always to places on my bucket list, but they give me the chance to get out of my everyday environment, explore new cities and see what they have to offer! We have a fun trip planned to New Mexico this summer for work; it’s not a place I had on my bucket list to see, but it is an opportunity to experience an entirely new state!

Another thing I like to do is start planning for future trips! I have a blast spending time researching the perfect places to stay, the best local cuisine in the area, and the exciting excursions to take while you are there. I’ve been working on a post about Oahu and I’ve spent hours finding the cutest little beach homes to rent. Most of these houses are away from large hotel chains and secluded in an area where you could enjoy the serenity of Hawaii. I absolutely loved envisioning what it would be like to stay there; feeling the ocean tickle your toes, smell the refreshing ocean breeze, and look out at the expansive ocean all around you.

It may not be sitting in the perfect vacation spot, but taking time to plan these trips and envision what could be is a great way to help satisfy your travel bug(at least for a while)!

Lastly, I love to explore the state I am in. There are so many unique areas in every state. So get in your car and drive to a place you’ve never been before. This year my husband and I are hoping to visit Tombstone and Horseshoe Bend. Both areas have their own unique charm, host stunning views, and are within a 2-4 hour drive of our home. Being able to take time to experience the areas all around us is such a blessing and something everyone should utilize.

Don’t let lack of accessibility to your bucket list stop you from exploring new places and enjoying your passion for travel!

 

Are You Living to Your Highest Potential?

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Are you living to your highest potential?

My husband has never wavered from pursuing his dream, no matter the cost or the time, he has pursued his dream with passion and drive. It’s one of the most amazing things you will ever see. The drive and passion he has to be a doctor is unparalleled. It’s what makes me believe that people can really find their passions in life. However, watching someone drive forward in their dreams, really makes you look inward and ask yourself, “Am I living out my dream?”

If you are, you know it. Without a shadow of a doubt. However, when you aren’t you know it as well.

Are you sitting in your cubicle questioning why you are sitting there, or are you sitting there fulfilled knowing you are in the right place?

If you are sitting there thinking, “Is this really where I will be 5 years from now?” or “Am I excited to get up and head to the office this morning?” or does the phrase, “I can’t wait to go home” come out of your mouth every day?

I think the challenge is that as you get older, you face increasing responsibility and expectations of those around you. Expectations to succeed, expectations to be extraordinary. Being ordinary, or not having remarkable success is looked down upon. How do we navigate this world?

I think there are a few ways we can look at this. We can look at life as a series of hurdles we need to cross to be successful. We can hit all our goals, hit our salary targets, start our own business, and become successful in the eyes of others.

But I think the real question we need to ask ourselves is are we happy, are we fulfilled in what we are doing?

If we aren’t what can we do to change it?

I don’t have this figured out, I’m 24 years old, 2 ½ years out of college, I can say I am still figuring everything out!

But I do have some suggestions that I have learned.

Take time to think. Don’t rush. I think the biggest hurdle I have been facing is discovering my passion “in time”. There is no time limit to finding your passion in life. Some things take longer, some things require time. That’s okay! Take your time, research the things you are interested in. It will be worth it in the end.

Finding your passion is difficult. I have spent years struggling over the fact that I couldn’t find my passion in life. When I took a class called the 12 Week Year a couple weeks ago our instructor said, “lack of passion is lack of clarity.” Nothing has hit me more than that did. If we are lacking in passion, we are lacking in clarity. We are not clearly seeing our future, we are not clearly seeing what we want to be. I have been wrestling with this statement ever since. If I lack clarity, then maybe I have a passion in life, it’s just clouded by all the noise around me.

The noise around me is what is hard to decipher, are you happy in life or just content? The noise is what can stop you from moving from content to happy. And I believe this is where I get stuck a lot. You get content, not that its bad to be content, but you stop moving forward.

. Maybe the noise is stopping you today from taking a step back and looking at your life. If it is, take a step back today and allow yourself to look at your life in perspective. Are you on the path toward your dreams and passions or are you on a path of contentment that will never allow you to reach those dreams?

Living a Life with No Regrets

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There is a question that all people eventually ask. Do you have any regrets in your life? This is a loaded question as we all make mistakes in our life, we all question which decision we should make, we all wonder if we have done the right thing. But the real question is, at the end of your life are the mistakes, wrong choices, and missed opportunities regret, or are they lessons that shaped us into the people that we are?

If we look at our life as a series of lessons instead of a life full of regrets, can we say at the end of our life that we have no regrets? Could it be a possibly that you could look back and have no regrets, to know you did the best you could with the life you were given? I believe there are a couple ways that we can change our way of thinking so that we don’t look at our life as a series of regrets.

The first thing being that we focus each day on small acts of kindness. My pastor said once that people always say, “when I have more money I will give more” or, “when I get this promotion I can volunteer more”, no matter what happens it’s always, when I. Instead of waiting for something big to happen to you, do small acts of kindness for those around you. Instead of binge watching Netflix, take that time and help your neighbor, do something kind for your spouse, volunteer at the local shelters. But putting off helping others because you don’t have time is simply an excuse you make. I make these statements as I do this every weekend. Even though I normally have all the time in the world on the weekends because my husband is studying, I still don’t get up and help those around me. Complaints of being tired, or just wanting to relax creep up in my mind every weekend. These thoughts, while they may be true, lead me to be unproductive and not utilize my full potential.

So my challenge going forward is to push myself to step out of my comfort zone and start helping those around me. I don’t want to look back at the end of my life and wonder what I could have done differently. To live a life that is meaningful and full of hope and selflessness is to live a life of no regrets. Matthew 25:45 “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’ When you take the time to help someone, you are really helping the Lord. You are only given one life, make sure you to take the time to help those around you.

The second thing you can do is stay humble. Humility goes a long way in looking back at your life with no regrets. People who spend their lives in a constant state of jealousy, who seek vengeance, who live a life full of lies and cheating to get to the top, those people will one day look back at their lives with regret for what they have done. They will regret stepping on top of someone else to achieve success, they will regret not forgiving those who have wronged them, and they will regret not being supportive to those around you. Stay humble in all circumstances, stay humble knowing that you are doing the best you can, just like everyone else around you. Ephesians 4:2 states, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”

My challenge for myself and you in this is to remember that we won’t always be the one acknowledged, we won’t always get what we want, there will always be someone out there who is prettier, smarter, and more accomplished than you. Does that mean you don’t have value? NO! But it does help to recognize that we all need to be humble and treat others with kindness and respect.

Third and finally, my suggestion is to take risks. My husband and I took a huge risk moving across the country so he could pursue his dream of going to medical school. That move took everything I had in me. I left knowing I would only see my family a couple times a year, instead of every couple weeks. I left knowing that I would miss out on big events in the lives of my friends and family. I left knowing I would have to sacrifice my nights, weekends, fun trips, and finances to help my husband to accomplish his dream. This was the biggest risk I had ever taken, and it has been hard, but it has been worth every moment. It has strengthened my marriage, it has helped me grow up, and it has truly made me grateful for every moment I get with my loved ones.

I don’t regret my decision to move out here, and I am excited instead of fearful of our moves in the future because I know that with each step, I learn and grow. With each risk, we challenge ourselves and our situation, with each risk we become a better version of ourselves.

What can you do today, that is a risk you know you should take, that you haven’t? What can you do to achieve the life you’ve always wanted? God will be there every step of the way, so walk out in faith, not in fear!

What do you do to live a life without regrets? Any advice I should implement in my own life? I’d love to hear from you!

 

Have a blessed and wonderful day!

 

 

Living with a Fisherman/Hunter

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Growing up my dad wasn’t an avid fisherman or hunter. He would go hunt occasionally, and we would go fishing in the pond behind our house, but it was never a lifestyle for him. So when I started dating my husband, I was immersed in a lifestyle that was centered around fishing and hunting. Let me tell you, it was a major change for me!

First off, fishing and hunting takes a lot of time! The first time he tells you he is going fishing, you think, “okay, he will be gone a couple hours or so”. Nope! I’m going fishing is code for, “I am leaving at 4:30 am to drive to the lake by sunrise and I will be gone until dusk.” And that is the exact same line you get during hunting season. Good part is, you get a free day all to yourself! However, when it becomes an every weekend thing, sometimes you go with him just to spend some time together!

The next thing you learn is that fishing and hunting are very expensive hobbies! I had no idea the amount of lures, rods, scopes, guns, ammunition, clothing and many more things that are needed to accomplish these hobbies. My nights now consist of watching my husband look up new fishing and hunting techniques, videos on new gear coming out and showing me the boats and land we will be acquiring in the future.

Although there are things about my husbands hobbies that are a huge lifestyle adjustment, one thing he always does is he is so considerate of my feelings. He always asks to make sure I don’t have plans for us before he goes out and he always invites me along if I want to go. Never once has he said I couldn’t go or that I had to stay home, he always encourages me to come along or do something I enjoy while he is gone. While fishing and hunting are expensive and time consuming, I could think of worse things my husband could do. Fishing and hunting ground him, help him to relax after a stressful week and really connect him with the Lord.

So my advice for spouses of an avid fisherman/hunter, count your blessings! You love a wonderful person with so many amazing qualities and interests!

Ballerina Dress

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Today, I wanted to show off this adorable dress from Ever-Pretty.  Super cute and flirty. This is an outfit that I plan on wearing on some fun date nights in the future! Absolutely beautiful in every way! When it comes to dresses I can be pretty picky, if it’s itchy or uncomfortable I will rarely wear it. However, this dress is comfortable and absolutely beautiful.

The dress is called, Alisa Pan Sleeveless Tea Length Ballerina Dress. You can find this dress and more at Ever Pretty. I absolutely love how well this dress fit! The top is a real soft feel and the bottom has a tulle feel to it on the outside, but the inside is lined with the same material as the top to make the dress comfortable for all day wear.

When you buy clothes online, there is always a chance that they won’t fit you perfectly, but let me tell you this dress fit like a glove! I would give Ever Pretty the highest recommendation after this review! Fast shipping, great return policy, and excellent material for your money!

 

Check out Ever Pretty for more gorgeous high-quality dresses!