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Trailer Life Reflections- 2 Months on The Road

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We are two months into our year of travel! It has been an amazing, crazy, incredibly busy time in our lives. We have driven and flown thousands of miles. Every day we have been challenged, between issues with campers, cars, or just general life headaches.

Traveling always comes with a small level of stress, between the constant changes and unknown that you throw yourself into. One of the most stressful experiences for me is the unknown of the parks that we are traveling to. We don’t have the time or resources to go and check out our RV parks prior to arrival so we have to put a lot of faith on what we see online and reviews of the park. It’s incredibly stressful driving across the country and hoping that the space you have reserved is in a nice, safe area and will work for the month or two that you are there.

Fortunately for us, we have had wonderful experiences so far. The parks have been clean, well maintained and the people have been friendly and accommodating. Our experience on the road has forced us to let go of our need for control and learn to trust that things will work out.

An example of this just happened the other day. On our way down to University of Florida Hospital, our truck broke down! We were only an hour into our trip and had to pull over for 3 hours while we tried to fix the truck. Luckily, we have wonderful friends who helped us figure out the problem and get back on the road after lunch. We have had several moments of cars breaking down, electrical, and roof damage and a whole host of other issues during these last few months.

Through it all, my wonderful husband has taken on each challenge with grace and fixed each problem so that we can move on. This road has been laced with challenges, however each step along the way has been worth it in order to stay together. No matter how frustrated or tired we get, I am thankful for the time we get to spend together. So here are a couple tips that I’ve learned on the road.

1.) Have Patience.

Between the constant travel, new environments, car and trailer issues and busy schedules; its easy to get frustrated and take it out on your spouse. Patience is a necessity along with a whole lot of grace and love. It’s easy for me to get frustrated after dealing with my travel and work schedule, but I have to take a step back and remember how tired and stressed out my husband is. When I do, I have more patience and love as I know he is doing the best he can as well. Patience becomes easier the more we step back and look at things from another point of view.

2.) Perspective is Critical

I find that I can get lost in the day to day of trailer living. The trailer gets messy quickly because its so small, it can get lonely being by myself all day, and I can get frustrated that there’s no one to talk to during the day. For me, I have to have perspective that we are able to experience new areas in the states, we are able to travel together and we are able to accomplish my husbands goals of being a doctor. The more I remember the goal, the easier the day to day gets.

3.) Expect the Unexpected

The amount of problems with the trailer, the car, the truck and just general travel has been crazy. It feels like every time we turn around there is something else we need to fix. These unexpected challenges are draining and can be discouraging as they seem to keep coming one after another. Give yourself grace when these challenges come, don’t focus on what you could have done to prevent it, just take it as they come and have grace with yourself and your spouse.

4.) Have Confidence

It is absolutely critical to have confidence in yourself and your spouse. Confidence that you can tackle situations together and with grace. Confidence when your car breaks down on the side of the road, when the roof leaks all over the floor, or when the electrical suddenly goes out. Traveling in a trailer will always bring some sort of problem, its how you face it that matters. Be confident in yourself that you can handle whatever comes your way.

After two months on the road, we feel like seasoned vets at this! But be on the look out, I have no doubt there is more to come!

Living a Life with No Regrets

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There is a question that all people eventually ask. Do you have any regrets in your life? This is a loaded question as we all make mistakes in our life, we all question which decision we should make, we all wonder if we have done the right thing. But the real question is, at the end of your life are the mistakes, wrong choices, and missed opportunities regret, or are they lessons that shaped us into the people that we are?

If we look at our life as a series of lessons instead of a life full of regrets, can we say at the end of our life that we have no regrets? Could it be a possibly that you could look back and have no regrets, to know you did the best you could with the life you were given? I believe there are a couple ways that we can change our way of thinking so that we don’t look at our life as a series of regrets.

The first thing being that we focus each day on small acts of kindness. My pastor said once that people always say, “when I have more money I will give more” or, “when I get this promotion I can volunteer more”, no matter what happens it’s always, when I. Instead of waiting for something big to happen to you, do small acts of kindness for those around you. Instead of binge watching Netflix, take that time and help your neighbor, do something kind for your spouse, volunteer at the local shelters. But putting off helping others because you don’t have time is simply an excuse you make. I make these statements as I do this every weekend. Even though I normally have all the time in the world on the weekends because my husband is studying, I still don’t get up and help those around me. Complaints of being tired, or just wanting to relax creep up in my mind every weekend. These thoughts, while they may be true, lead me to be unproductive and not utilize my full potential.

So my challenge going forward is to push myself to step out of my comfort zone and start helping those around me. I don’t want to look back at the end of my life and wonder what I could have done differently. To live a life that is meaningful and full of hope and selflessness is to live a life of no regrets. Matthew 25:45 “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’ When you take the time to help someone, you are really helping the Lord. You are only given one life, make sure you to take the time to help those around you.

The second thing you can do is stay humble. Humility goes a long way in looking back at your life with no regrets. People who spend their lives in a constant state of jealousy, who seek vengeance, who live a life full of lies and cheating to get to the top, those people will one day look back at their lives with regret for what they have done. They will regret stepping on top of someone else to achieve success, they will regret not forgiving those who have wronged them, and they will regret not being supportive to those around you. Stay humble in all circumstances, stay humble knowing that you are doing the best you can, just like everyone else around you. Ephesians 4:2 states, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”

My challenge for myself and you in this is to remember that we won’t always be the one acknowledged, we won’t always get what we want, there will always be someone out there who is prettier, smarter, and more accomplished than you. Does that mean you don’t have value? NO! But it does help to recognize that we all need to be humble and treat others with kindness and respect.

Third and finally, my suggestion is to take risks. My husband and I took a huge risk moving across the country so he could pursue his dream of going to medical school. That move took everything I had in me. I left knowing I would only see my family a couple times a year, instead of every couple weeks. I left knowing that I would miss out on big events in the lives of my friends and family. I left knowing I would have to sacrifice my nights, weekends, fun trips, and finances to help my husband to accomplish his dream. This was the biggest risk I had ever taken, and it has been hard, but it has been worth every moment. It has strengthened my marriage, it has helped me grow up, and it has truly made me grateful for every moment I get with my loved ones.

I don’t regret my decision to move out here, and I am excited instead of fearful of our moves in the future because I know that with each step, I learn and grow. With each risk, we challenge ourselves and our situation, with each risk we become a better version of ourselves.

What can you do today, that is a risk you know you should take, that you haven’t? What can you do to achieve the life you’ve always wanted? God will be there every step of the way, so walk out in faith, not in fear!

What do you do to live a life without regrets? Any advice I should implement in my own life? I’d love to hear from you!

 

Have a blessed and wonderful day!