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Everyone Hates Me

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“Everyone hates me. No one wants to hang out with me. My coworkers don’t want me around.”

There is a small voice in the back of our minds trying to convince us that the world is against you. That you are small, insignificant, unworthy and unloved. It’s the voice in the crowded rooming saying you’ll never be enough. It’s the bang of self-doubt when you are around your friends or loved ones.

This voice affects each and every one of us in different ways. It may be telling you that you will never be able to live out your dreams because you are not talented or pretty enough. It may tell you that you don’t have ‘real’ friends and that those who hang out with you do so out of pity. It may be a rush of anxiety when you face a new situation, telling you that you are and will be a failure. This voice. This negative, lying voice. This voice is trying to stop you from being the best that you can be. It wants you to believe that you are unworthy and unloved.

The problem with this voice is when we believe it! We believe the lies we are being told, we believe the media when they say we aren’t good enough or talented enough. We believe that we are less than we really are.

But I am here to implore you to push aside this voice. To push aside the negative thoughts. To believe the best about yourself and not hold back out of fear or anxiety. If I could leave one thought with you it would be to you remember WHO YOU ARE.

You were made in the image of an almighty and loving Creator.

You were made to do great and powerful things.

You were made to bring light and goodness into the world.

You are worthy of more than an anxiety filled, stressful life.

You are completely and totally loved. You are loved more than you will ever know.

Most of all, have faith in yourself. Believe that you are capable, intelligent, worthy, loved and strong.

Remember, today and everyday, who you are. You are worth more than you’ll every know. Be proud of yourself. Speak positive and kind words about yourself. But most of all, remember how loved you truly are.

Don’t be Passive! Be a Confident Voter

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Even if you don’t watch the news its hard to miss the political craziness that is happening. As the 2020 election nears, the political atmosphere is amplified to an almost exhaustive point.

How can you be confident in a political climate like the one we are in? How can you be confident when the two sides cannot find commonality and are constantly belittling each other? How can you be confident in what to do when everyone is constantly telling you to attack those who don’t agree with you?

The unfortunate part of politics is you have no way of seeing the future. You cannot determine every decision that a senator, congressman or president will make. However, you can make a confident decision, even in today’s political environment.

Do Your OWN Research.

Relying on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter for your news and political knowledge is without a doubt the most irresponsible thing you can do when deciding who to vote for. You have to do your own research. Research how you candidate has voted historically, what causes do they seem to be passionate about, what areas do they focus on the most? Do the things that you find make you feel confident about how that candidate will handle political decisions? Will those decisions be something that you could live with?

Here is the thing with voting, the person you vote for is your responsibility too. You are putting your stake in the political climate of our future by voting for them. Make sure that who you vote for is someone you would be proud to stand by 4 years down the road when they are facing reelection. Don’t feel pressured to vote for someone by your politically savvy Facebook friend. Don’t vote for the ‘popular’ person just because you don’t want to admit you wanted to vote for someone else.

The only way that our political climate can grow in a positive way is if you take responsibility and vote with CONFIDENCE. Vote with the knowledge that you can and do have a say in where we go as a nation.

Expand Your Horizons.

If you don’t go out of your way to learn and expand your horizons, you have no say in where we are going as a nation. You need to take your own responsibility and learn about what is going on. Be informed on the issues. I am the first one to tell you that its so much easier to ignore the policital climate and live in my own bubble. But I also know that when I do that, I have no right to comment on what changes are made in the world. In order for you to truly be confident in your political life, you need to get out and learn about the issues. Be informed about the major players in the issues that are near and dear to your heart.

Are you passionate about climate change? — Do you know the current climate change issues? Do you know the major players advocating for change? Are their beliefs in line with your beliefs on climate change? These questions need to be answered for you to truly have confidence in what you are voting on and for.

Tune Out The Noise.

Our social media climate is dangerous when it comes to politics, facts can be skewed to fit an agenda. Posts can be sponsored to appear in front of you influencing your decisions. Navigating politics today requires strength to ignore misrepresentation, ignore blatant attempts to persuade you, and focus on the truth. When you are able to block out everything but the facts and the truth behind each candidate you will have confidence that you are making the best decision you can.

Social media has become our news outlet, even though the facts are skewed and unreliable at best. The key to a confident vote is to be able to see through the noise and find the truth. I would also suggest that we start to remember that everyone on social media will have their own opinions. Those opinions will be shared with passion and drive, our biggest asset is being able to look at these opinions objectively and without arguing over every small issue. I challenge you to enter this election season with a new outlook! Below are some quick tips to help you with this new outlook.

Tip’s on voting with Confidence.

1.) Let Go of Your Need for Control

You will never be able to control those around you. There will always be those who disagree with you. While you may not be able to control those around you, you can control YOURSELF. Trust that you have a voice. A voice that has meaning, a voice that can make an impact.

2.) Be Active in Your Community

Be active in your community, be engaged with the issues, be at town councils and city events. Be active with the issues going on in your community and do your part to be involved in resolutions. This involvement will lead you to understand how potential candidates could better assist and will give you confidence when choosing which candidate you believe can make a difference.

3.) Every Candidate has Flaws

No matter how much we like to believe that our candidate will be flawless and make every decision the way we would, that is simply not the case. Every candidate will vote on at least one issue that you disagree with, they will do something or say something that isn’t in line with your beliefs. That is okay! When we acknowledge the fact that politicians are human and make errors, the easier it will be for us to focus on all the things they are doing right. And when those positives outweigh the negatives, we know that we made the right choice.

As the presidential election begins to ramp up, remember these tips. Remember that you are fully equipped to make a logical and confident decision.


Trailer Life Reflections- 2 Months on The Road

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We are two months into our year of travel! It has been an amazing, crazy, incredibly busy time in our lives. We have driven and flown thousands of miles. Every day we have been challenged, between issues with campers, cars, or just general life headaches.

Traveling always comes with a small level of stress, between the constant changes and unknown that you throw yourself into. One of the most stressful experiences for me is the unknown of the parks that we are traveling to. We don’t have the time or resources to go and check out our RV parks prior to arrival so we have to put a lot of faith on what we see online and reviews of the park. It’s incredibly stressful driving across the country and hoping that the space you have reserved is in a nice, safe area and will work for the month or two that you are there.

Fortunately for us, we have had wonderful experiences so far. The parks have been clean, well maintained and the people have been friendly and accommodating. Our experience on the road has forced us to let go of our need for control and learn to trust that things will work out.

An example of this just happened the other day. On our way down to University of Florida Hospital, our truck broke down! We were only an hour into our trip and had to pull over for 3 hours while we tried to fix the truck. Luckily, we have wonderful friends who helped us figure out the problem and get back on the road after lunch. We have had several moments of cars breaking down, electrical, and roof damage and a whole host of other issues during these last few months.

Through it all, my wonderful husband has taken on each challenge with grace and fixed each problem so that we can move on. This road has been laced with challenges, however each step along the way has been worth it in order to stay together. No matter how frustrated or tired we get, I am thankful for the time we get to spend together. So here are a couple tips that I’ve learned on the road.

1.) Have Patience.

Between the constant travel, new environments, car and trailer issues and busy schedules; its easy to get frustrated and take it out on your spouse. Patience is a necessity along with a whole lot of grace and love. It’s easy for me to get frustrated after dealing with my travel and work schedule, but I have to take a step back and remember how tired and stressed out my husband is. When I do, I have more patience and love as I know he is doing the best he can as well. Patience becomes easier the more we step back and look at things from another point of view.

2.) Perspective is Critical

I find that I can get lost in the day to day of trailer living. The trailer gets messy quickly because its so small, it can get lonely being by myself all day, and I can get frustrated that there’s no one to talk to during the day. For me, I have to have perspective that we are able to experience new areas in the states, we are able to travel together and we are able to accomplish my husbands goals of being a doctor. The more I remember the goal, the easier the day to day gets.

3.) Expect the Unexpected

The amount of problems with the trailer, the car, the truck and just general travel has been crazy. It feels like every time we turn around there is something else we need to fix. These unexpected challenges are draining and can be discouraging as they seem to keep coming one after another. Give yourself grace when these challenges come, don’t focus on what you could have done to prevent it, just take it as they come and have grace with yourself and your spouse.

4.) Have Confidence

It is absolutely critical to have confidence in yourself and your spouse. Confidence that you can tackle situations together and with grace. Confidence when your car breaks down on the side of the road, when the roof leaks all over the floor, or when the electrical suddenly goes out. Traveling in a trailer will always bring some sort of problem, its how you face it that matters. Be confident in yourself that you can handle whatever comes your way.

After two months on the road, we feel like seasoned vets at this! But be on the look out, I have no doubt there is more to come!