The reality of the 4th trimester is that you can and most likely will be overwhelmed. Between the rush of emotions, the changes in your hormones and juggling a new baby at home; overwhelmed barely begins to cover it.
For me, it’s trying to balance working from home and the baby. I want to work and bring in income to help our family, but I also need to take care of my daughter. That adds endless stress to my day to day life. But more than that it makes me feel guilty. Guilty I’m not doing enough as a mom, guilty that I’m a bad employee, guilty I’m a bad wife, the list goes on and on. Those feelings are endless and overwhelming for me and a real part of my postpartum experience. I’ve never been good with change and babies are one of the biggest changes.
If you are pregnant and preparing for a baby, prepare for what life will look like postpartum. You don’t have it all figured out, but have a plan in place and be willing to make changes to the plan. For me, that means changing the plan up some. It means working hard during naps and then playing with Mia when she’s awake. It means letting go of being perfect and getting it all done. It means letting go of the fear of failing. I can’t do everything so I will do my best and be okay with it. I will trust that it’s okay to not be able to give 100% of myself to both things at all times of the day.
Postpartum, in my opinion, is harder than pregnancy. Because you need to prepare more for it and we don’t. We don’t focus on making a real effort to prepare ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually for the change coming. So for those heading into their 4th trimester let me give you a virtual hug. It’s not easy and you are going to have tough moments. You will have moments of fear, moments you are overwhelmed, moments you don’t know what to do. It’s okay! You are not a bad mom for needing time to adjust to the changes you are facing. Take it one step, one day at a time. Be willing to make changes or be flexible as things come up. Life is short but you can do this!
Now that I’ve thoroughly depressed you, let me share the positives!! That even in the absolute hardest moments, in my weakest moments, my daughter is the best thing. She’s beautiful, fun, and brings so much joy to my life. It’s okay to acknowledge the hard parts and still love your child with every ounce of your being! So don’t feel bad for having rough moments, for getting postpartum depression, for needing extra help, for crying it out. You are human and this is a huge life change. Take all the time you need to adjust and don’t forget to take care of yourself! If you are in this season of life or have passed it, what are your favorite self care methods?! Let me know in the comments below!
All the love and support I can give! XOXO Kayla