Stress Free Work Week

You are going to have an amazing week!

You are not going to let stress ruin your week!

Work weeks are tough. There is no getting around it; something goes wrong, a client gets frustrated or a coworker makes you mad. Stress is a constant factor in our lives, especially at work. But there are ways to help alleviate this and make your week fantastic!

The first step is to recognize that while it is an important part of your life, it isn’t everything. That means that when something goes wrong, it’s okay to shrug it off and move on. There are very few problems that warrant the stress we give them. One of the lies I believe the world has told us is that we need to stress out about everything that doesn’t go our way. The danger of this lie is that it causes you physical and emotional harm to stress about every little thing. It hurts you to worry yourself about things you have no control over or trivial things that won’t matter in 2 months. When you find yourself stressing this week, start following these few tips.

  1.  Get up and walk away. Walking away from the situation will help you to put the situation into perspective and to be able to handle with a clear and calm mind.
  2.  Take a sip of icy water. Always have a bottle of water at your desk. Taking small sips of water when you are stressed will help your body to calm down and fight the stresses.
  3. A technique I learned from a therapist in college is to close your eyes and breathe in for six seconds and then exhale for seven seconds. Repeat this technique until you can feel the tension and stress leave your mind. It sounds silly, but this is, without doubt, one of the best techniques I’ve ever tried.

The next thing is to think about what you want to be remembered for. Do you want to be remembered for being stressed out at work? Remembered as the person who was unhinged and constantly worried about things outside their control? Or would you rather be remembered as someone who always brought joy and happiness to those you worked with? Someone who always lent a helping hand to others and valued your needs over their own. Those traits are so much more important than high sales numbers and increased profit margins. Money comes and goes, but character makes a lasting difference. Take charge of your week and choose joy over stress.

At the end of this week, you are going to look back and say that you kicked butt this week. Remember that you are a Rockstar and God has got an incredible plan for your life.

In the hard moments, pray for wisdom and guidance. 

When you are stressed, know that God has every situation under control.

You are loved, and you got this.

xoxo– Kayla

25th Birthday Post

Today I turn 25!

I am so excited and nervous to be getting another year older! I have spent the last few days reflecting on my 25 years. There are things that I am incredibly proud of, and areas I wish I would have done things differently. However, each moment has lead me to where I am today and for that I am eternally grateful!

In 25 years on this earth, I have learned one big lesson. That kindness, generosity, and a heart of service are what matters. I have career goals, personal goals, and a huge bucket list. But the things that I reflect on and know without a doubt I did correctly have been choosing kindness. Choosing to serve others even when I feel they don’t deserve it.

I have grown a lot over the years, but I know I still have a ways to go. Every day I am learning to confidently pursue my dreams and have faith that God’s plan is always in motion!

So today, please extend a kind and helping hand to those around you. In the end it will help not only them but you!

 

xoxo- Kayla

Fear of Being Late to the Party

I am afraid of being late to the party.

I am afraid of being late to the party. What if I am too late to pursue the things I really want to do? What if I can’t catch up to those who are succeeding in my field? What if I can’t achieve the dream I have set in my head?

These thoughts enter my brain every time I start to think I could do more in life. I am afraid I’m too late to the party. I am too late to become anything special, and all the good ideas and companies have already been created and implemented.

Does anyone else ever get this way? You get excited about a new idea and a new goal that feels right, only to watch everyone around you seem as if they are way ahead of the game? You begin to question why; why do you have a passion for this if all the ideas have already been taken? Can you really offer something new to the world?

Well, I am here to tell you that those feelings are normal. And, I would argue this means you headed in the right direction. If you have a deep passion for something, get excited about it. If you get paralyzed by fear, it is a sign that you need to push through. Push past the fear and see what’s beyond. The things you love in life are there for a reason. If you don’t try, you will never know where you could have ended up!

So here are my tips to overcoming “the late to the party” syndrome:

Tip 1.) Believe you are UNIQUE! That means that your ideas and thoughts are uniquely yours. Don’t be afraid to show the world what only your brain could provide!

Tip 2.) Face your fears. There will always be fears in your life. There is always the fear that you won’t achieve your dreams. The question is whether or not you step up and overcome that fear. Fear has a way of paralyzing us and stopping us from moving forward. Fear of other people’s opinions of you, fear that you will make fool of yourself, or fear that you aren’t good enough. Tell yourself today that fear will not control you. You are greater than your fear. You can accomplish your goals and dreams!

Tip 3.) You aren’t too late. There is no reason you can’t go after that new job, start that business, or pursue a new hobby. Your life is whatever you want it to be! Just because others are further along in their careers, hobbies, or other dreams; has no bearing on whether or not you can accomplish your own dreams! Life isn’t a race to see who gets there first. It’s about being the best person you can be and doing your best to make the world a better place.

Tip 4.) Don’t let others say you can’t. There will always be naysayers and people who don’t believe in your dream. They will tell you that you aren’t smart enough, talented enough, or you don’t have the funds to pursue your dream. Don’t allow their thoughts to affect you. Tell yourself everyday, “I Am Made For More”. You were made for so much more than you know. Have faith in yourself and your dream.

So today, don’t believe the lie that you are too late to the party. Believe that you were uniquely created to accomplish your dreams at this time! Remember this verse from Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

xoxo — Kayla

Overcoming Worry with Faith

There isn’t room for both worry and faith.

Let me preface this by saying that I have struggled with constant worry all my life. My gut reaction is to worry and stress over every situation. Every time I am faced with something that is challenging or stressful, I immediately start to worry. My mind jumps to the worst-case scenario and stays there for hours. I think of the worst thing that could be said to me, the worst possible situation. For years, it was this constant loop of stress and worry.

The first time I felt relief from my constant worry was when I started dating my husband. He would push me to be better, he would push me to look at the situation objectively not as what could happen. In every situation he would help me to look at the situation in a different light, helping push me to have faith instead of fear and worry. I could never figure out why my husband didn’t stress out. It wasn’t until we had been married for a while that I finally realized it wasn’t that he didn’t feel that pang of stress or worry, it’s that he knows that things will be fine. He has complete faith that we can handle any situation that comes our way.

My pastor preached a sermon a few weeks ago where he talked about how we can’t have both worry and faith and my husband nudged me. The pastor was speaking in that moment that if we have faith in the Lord, we can’t have this constant worry. It doesn’t mean you can’t have no worries in your life, it means not letting worry consume you. Instead of letting worry be your reaction, let faith come in instead. He went on to say that God mentions “Do NOT worry” countless times throughout scripture.

Philippians 4:6-7 says “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

My reaction to this verse has always been the same, that God must not understand that I have horrible anxiety, doesn’t he understand that my first reaction is to worry, that my mind always jumps to the worst-case scenario. That this verse was obviously not written with me in mind because I can’t get over my anxiety and worry. When in fact, I think this verse was stated specifically for people like me and you. People who deal with massive anxiety and panic attacks, people who stress over the big and little things in life.

 

Do not worry. Choose faith over fear. Choose faith over stress. Choose faith over doubt. In every situation we have the power to pray, pray for faith in that moment. Pray that the Lord would guide our hearts in faith instead of fear and worry. Find someone who pushes you to have faith over worry and fear!

 

The Lord is guiding you every step of the way!

 

xoxo

 

Kayla

 

 

 

Adventure is out There

This past Sunday, my pastor did a nontraditional Easter sermon. He spoke about how we are all created with this innate desire to seek adventure, to see what’s behind that door, to see what’s beyond that mountain. As kids we are so excited to try new things, to see what would happen if we went down that trail in the woods, if we went just a little further down the beach, if we climbed up that rock. We craved adventure and craved seeing things we’ve never seen before. But somewhere along the way, we lost this sense of adventure. We lost our desire to explore and try new things, because we are busy and set in our routines.

We sit on the couch every weekend binge watching Netflix, cleaning the house, or doing chores we pushed off during the week. But we don’t do anything new, we don’t step outside our comfort zone and explore. Nothing happens outside of the one to two vacations we take each year. We accept a life where we only explore and try new things two times a year. But what if we just tried one new thing a week? What if you just took two hours out of your weekend to do something that excites you, that challenges you, that makes you feel like a kid again?

So today, I want to go over 5 Adventures you can try this weekend!

  • Skydiving! This is a bucket list item. If you are like me and have always wanted to go, get out of your comfort zone and do it! There are always skydiving deals on Groupon and you can get videos/pictures of you doing this amazing bucket list item! If you are scared to try it, think about it this way; when you are in a plane flying to vacation, you are always looking out the window in awe of what’s below. It’s such a unique sight, and skydiving gives you a chance to see the world from a whole new view and with the trill of having nothing beneath your feet!
  • Go to a New Sporting Event! I am not a fan of basketball, I’ve been to a couple games with my dad as a kid, but it was never my favorite sporting event. But an opportunity arose for me to go to a Phoenix Suns game this week with people from my work. Did I hop on a chance to experience a new venue and a new team that I’d never seen before? Absolutely! You will only regret the things you didn’t do! See what sporting events are happening in your area and experience something you’ve never seen before!
  • Hot Air Balloon Ride – These rides offer amazing views of your city, or the city you are visiting. I have heard nothing but wonderful things from everyone who has been on one of these rides! You have to pay a little more than usual for these, but they are such a unique experience. Most people go on dates on the weekend anyways, why not make this date one you will never forget?! The best rides are first thing in the morning, so you can see the city wake up right before your eyes! (By the way the best place to get deals on Hot Air Balloon Rides is Groupon)
  • Hike a Trail/Mountain – There are trails or mountains to climb everywhere in the world. No area has a shortage of outdoor spaces to explore. Try a hike that is a little more challenging but offers amazing views, don’t sell yourself short on what you can do and see! In Arizona there are hikes surrounding each area of Phoenix, but if you travel two hours north, there are unbelievable views from the hikes in Flagstaff. Take a quick minute and go to trails.com to find hikes in your area! All it requires is your time and energy!
  • Concerts/Shows– I know for a fact there are concerts/shows every month in every area of the country! It may not be your favorite artist, or the circus in town, but there is something! Go see that new Broadway show, or see Pitbull live! (my husbands dream concert) Go see a local play or go to a bar with live music and see what talent is all around you! Enjoy seeing new things with friends or your significant other, there is so much creative talent if you just go out and find it. If you are really adventurous head out to Nashville for some of the best local live shows around! 😉

 

Adventure awaits you!

-xoxo

Kayla

Koffee with Kayla Thursday: Building Faith from a Ripped Dress

I love my black long sleeved dress. I feel beautiful and comfortable in this dress, it’s just the right length, the sleeves aren’t too long or too short, and it shows off all the right places. It’s one of my favorite go to dresses. Today it ripped…

I may be over dramatic here but it was heartbreaking. Mainly because I can’t afford to replace it. We are just at that point in our lives, where I can’t afford to replace everything that breaks or tears. I was getting more angry by the second when this bible verse slipped into my mind.

Matthew 6:25-34“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 

“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

I was reminded in this moment the gravity of this verse. When things are easy and the money is flowing in, we lose the significance. The Lord knows what we need, he knows there are basic needs that need to be met. And he says if he takes care of the birds of the air and the flowers in the field, won’t he take care of us. If this doesn’t cause you to stop and just praise the Lord, let me phrase it this way.

We are so quick to think that the Lord is against us, that things just aren’t going right. Whether it’s something big, like a family member having cancer, or something small like a ripped dress, we are so quick to change our tune. We are so quick to believe God has forgotten about us, that we are on our own and things will never get better.

And it’s so easy to get trapped in this train of thought. The second my dress ripped, there was no stopping my mind from getting frustrated and upset. I couldn’t think of anything besides my ripped dress. I was angry and upset, texting my husband in anger and thinking about how I can’t replace this dress and my favorite pair of shoes that ripped two days ago. Until I could feel God saying to me, “Kayla, I will take care of you. I am here with you. I will lead you through this time. Trust me.” (once in a while I actually hear that still small voice)

My time during this medical school journey has been one where I have been actively reflected with God about my faith and trusting Him.

When my shirt rips, my family goes through a rough patch, or my husband and I have an unexpected financial expense, I can choose two options.

I can choose to respond as I did with the ripped dress, in anger. I can be angry that things aren’t going my way. I can be angry that things are hard. I can be angry with the world that life isn’t the perfect journey I wanted.

Or I can remember this verse. I can tell myself, if God is taking care of all the animals of the world, and he values me so much more, do I not trust him to take care of my needs too? Do I not trust him with my finances, with my future, with my marriage, with my dreams?

Every day we are faced with decisions. And each day we get the opportunity to respond in Faith instead of Fear.

Today, I pray you respond in Faith. Respond with grace and understanding. Know that while the journey may not be unfolding the way you planned, that God has PERFECT timing. That perfect timing will come to pass. Whatever you may be dealing with today, try a technique my mom always used. When life is hard or she didn’t know what to do, she was on her knees in prayer. She was on her knees asking for guidance, asking for wisdom in the situation. And I have no doubt He answered every prayer, maybe not in the way my mom wanted, but He answered EVERY prayer. He is answering your prayers today, and he is guiding you along this path. Keep the Faith!

 

xoxo,

Kayla

 

The Best Airbnb in Sedona

I am absolutely in love with Sedona! It is without fail, one of the most gorgeous destinations in the US.  My husband and I fell in love with Sedona the moment we saw it, it has an unparalleled beauty that is unlike anything I’ve ever seen!

We’ve had many family members and friends come out to Arizona over the last three years, and once they have seen Sedona it’s the only place they want to go back to! Because of it’s unbelievable views, there really is nowhere bad to stay in Sedona, however, I’ve compiled a list of my go to Airbnb’s in Sedona. (Best part is they all host amazing reviews!)

La Colibri Rouge Luxury Master Suite

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This suite is absolutely gorgeous! Beautiful wood surrounds the walls, floors and door, and you are treated with a large bed to relax in along with a private bathroom for your use. The location is outside of the traffic of downtown Sedona allowing you to relax in nature and truly enjoy your vacation. The room starts at only $99/night and is perfect for any couple looking for a relaxing oasis.

Red Rock Base Camp

At the Red Rock base camp, you get a gorgeous view of the Red Rocks and a quiet comfortable space. The inside of the house is clean, well lit and spacious. Hosting an updated and beautiful kitchen, private patio and comfortable furniture. This house is gorgeous retreat for anyone who wants to have the beauty of Sedona right from their living room for a great price! Starting at $95 a night, this house is definitely a steal for anyone coming to Sedona!

Tranquil Beauty

Kitchen and dining area

While the living room and kitchen are shared with your Airbnb host, the house is absolutely stunning. Pristine and clean, this place is nothing short of a home away from home! This home is right beside Coconino National Forest, which hosts gorgeous views of the Red Rocks! You are also an easy drive into downtown Sedona where all the shops and excursions are. The best part is this gorgeous Airbnb starts at only $43/night!!

Wherever you stay, you will not be disappointed in the gorgeous views Sedona has to offer you!

 

xoxo,

 

Kayla

Lessons from Chip and Joanna Gaines

By this point that everyone has read The Magnolia Story. This story has really stuck with me, its the humbleness and their unwavering faith in the Lord that amazes me. Life wasn’t a perfect picture for Chip and Joanna, there were bumps and challenges along the way. There wasn’t a clear direction for them, there wasn’t an ‘aha’ moment where they realized what God’s plan was for them. Instead, they took each moment and made the most of it. They didn’t question why things fell into their laps, instead they capitalized on them and made the most of them.

What an unbelievable testimony of faith! When I watch Chip and Joanna and read about their lives, there is never a question in my mind that they had unwavering faith. They knew that no matter what happened God was going to be behind them. So they found joy within the hard and difficult circumstances.

Which is where we get what I believe is the biggest lesson from their story. Finding happiness and joy in the difficult times. We have this belief that once we achieve our desired goals or life aspirations that then we will be happy. However, as Chip and Joanna explain through their story, that isn’t the key to happiness. “It was such a blessing to find myself thriving in the middle of the pain. Unless you find a way to do that, there’s always going to be this fake illusion that once you get there–wherever “there” is for you–you’ll be happy. But that’s just not life. If you can’t find happiness in the ugliness, you’re not going to find it in beauty, either.
― Joanna Gaines

When I moved from Indiana to Arizona I had this belief that I wouldn’t be truly happy again until I was closer to family, and it has taken me over two years to realize that this was not the case. I was looking at my life through the lens of what could have been instead of embracing what it was. It was making me miserable, until one day my husband snapped me out of my funk. He was blunt but honest, “This is where we are, get over it and accept it.” It was a punch to the gut, but it was true. Happiness is a choice, and once I accepted that fact, things started to brighten. I was able to see past the day to day and embrace the challenges in life with happiness. There are still bad days, but I am able to put them into perspective and move past them. It’s a slow process changing the way you view happiness, but once you start you will see how much joy you were missing out on! And that’s where I think Joanna speaks so much truth, they have so many blessings, but they were happy when they were broke and things were hard, which allows them to be happy when they are successful!

 I love how Chip approaches life, it’s one of the best ways I’ve ever heard to find true joy. “I told myself that I was going to live the rest of my life as if it were Saturday.”― Chip Gaines  If you treated each day like it was Saturday, what would you do? Would you do the things you truly enjoyed? Would you start making real changes? I’ve been struggling with this one for the past year, especially after I read The Magnolia Story. I wanted to live each day as if it were Saturday, but I was scared. What if I wasn’t good enough at my dreams, what if my dreams were unattainable, what if people made fun of me? I’ve always wanted to start blogging, traveling and trying new things. But I never thought I’d be good enough or that anyone would care. And while those fears are still very real for me. The lesson I took away from Chip is that, fear is natural, but letting it cripple you is where things get dangerous. Take strides each day to live like each day was Saturday. One step at a time will get you to your dream!

Lastly,  if we were to take a moment and stop planning our lives out, we might start to enjoy the surprises in life. As Joanna says, “If I had planned my life, it never would have ended up like this. So maybe it’s kind of fun not to plan. Maybe it’s more fun just to see where life takes you.”― Joanna Gaines   As hard as it may be to let go of control, it may just be the very best thing we could do. Let Go and Let God. Let Him take you down the path you were meant to go on. It will exceed your wildest expectations!

Being in Phoenix has helped me to grow up in so many ways that I never would have had I not left the comfort of Indiana. It forced my husband and I to rely on each other and not others for help and support. The move has taught us how to handle our differences and how to handle the challenges thrown at us. I never would have imagined living in Arizona, but it has been such a unique and wonderful experience. Letting go and letting God direct your life is the biggest blessing you could give yourself!

 

So today, I pray that you take time to care for yourself. To embrace happiness, to live life to the fullest, and to enjoy the twists and turns that come along the way! Make the most of every day you are given!

 

xoxo

Kayla

 

Best Airbnb For Your Hawaii Vacation!

My first trip to Nashville, Tennessee was for my friends bachelorette party. We ended up spending the weekend in an Airbnb home right outside the city. The home was well maintained, clean and was a great price. I loved that we had the privacy and comfort of a home even while we were on vacation. Ever since this trip, I have been dying to try out another Airbnb home!

That being said, today we are going to be looking for the best Airbnb homes available in Oahu, Hawaii. Mainly because if you are going to go to Hawaii, you should have the most magical experience possible. Let’s dive in!

Bay View Bungalow. Oh. My. Word. The perfect out of the city vacation home!

Talk about the most stunning view I have ever seen. If it was possible to convince my entire family to move to this home, I would in a heartbeat! The home is modest, clean and simple, but the views from your living room are UNBELIEVABLE! I can already envision sitting on the porch with a cup of coffee, enjoying the cool morning ocean breeze and enjoying the sound of the waves crashing on the beach shore. The reviews on this bungalow all rave the owners, the coziness of the home and the amazing views. And if this wasn’t enough to convince you to stay in this bungalow, let’s just talk about how it’s only $80/night! $80/night in Hawaii is an unbelievable deal, especially with this view! Jump on this deal and reserve your space for your next Hawaii trip!


 

Pearl City Guest Suite. Modern city vibes.

My favorite thing about this guest suite, is the modern edge is has. Not everyone wants to sit in the backwoods of Hawaii on vacation and that is completely understandable! For those that love the city life and want to experience this side of Hawaii, this suite is perfect for you! Newly constructed with modern appliances and a clean sheek look, this place is perfect for an adventurous trip! At only $70/night the prices are extremely affordable, and you are located only a few minutes from public transport to get you to your vacation excursions! And to top it all off this Airbnb suite hosts a five star rating.


Private Ohana Unit in Historical Haleiwa Town -Couples Retreat

This guesthouse is in a quiet and serene area of Oahu. There is a private access to the guesthouse, and the family has offered their assistance and provided various beach amenities to make your experience enjoyable! The beach and Haleiwa are within walking distance from you. Inside this guesthouse is a cozy bedroom and living room, with a small kitchen and a beautiful backyard to sit and relax in. What I love about this Airbnb is that between the owners offers to assist and help you and their consistent 5 star rating; there would never be a moment you couldn’t find what you were looking for in Oahu. At $99 dollars a night this would definitely be on my go to list when I visit Oahu!

 

I don’t know about you but if I am going to pay to go to Oahu, I want a nice place to stay and relax that’s within my budget. These places are perfect for anyone heading to Oahu and I encourage you to check out these locations on your next vacation!