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Choosing the RV Life

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We have some really exciting news to share with you all! We are ditching the apartment life and heading for the road!

Considering how big this news is, lets start from the beginning! As most of you know my husband, Evan, is in medical school. Because he is a medical student, he has 4th year externships. These externships are interviews with various hospitals around the country to learn as well as discover which hospital you want to do your residency at. The crazy part about externships is that you are required to pay for all the travel costs. Let me break that down. For 14 months you are expected to travel to various hospitals, sometimes only at a hospital for a month at a time, and foot all the costs along with your standard tuition fees. This is an insane amount of money to expect students to shell out. Most solutions are to just take out some more loans, and to leave your family while you travel around.

For my husband and I, this was not going to work. 14 months apart and trying to cover the costs of two rents, two utilities, two everything was just unfathomable. We went through various options, me moving to our base hospital (5 of the 14 months are at this hospital). This would allow me to see my husband at least a little more, but that just didn’t seem like a viable option either. This led us to a third, crazy option. Let’s live in an trailer!

Yes, I am completely sure we were out of our mind when we first suggested the idea. But as we really sat down and thought about our options, it honestly made the most logistical sense. This way, we could be together and the plus side is that we get to travel to some beautiful places. However doing this meant that we would have do fork up a lot of upfront cost, a new truck and the cost of the trailer. There is a big positive, the travel trailer could be resold at the end of our journey, allowing us to recoup a huge chunk of the costs we have sunk in at the beginning. At the end of the day, we will really be saving an extraordinary amount of money as opposed to our other options.

Considering that Evan and I have never owned a travel trailer, we don’t have a lot of knowledge of how to renovate, what we need to organize, or what little things we aren’t aware of but will need. So I have been slowly researching, asking questions and of course pinteresting! 😉 We are going to be needing all the advice we can get, so if you have any, please let us know!

As we go through this crazy transition from apartment life, to living in an RV around the country, I will be posting updates on where we are, the ups and downs. If you want to follow along, please like our blog and Instagram!

 

Stress Free Work Week

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You are going to have an amazing week!

You are not going to let stress ruin your week!

Work weeks are tough. There is no getting around it; something goes wrong, a client gets frustrated or a coworker makes you mad. Stress is a constant factor in our lives, especially at work. But there are ways to help alleviate this and make your week fantastic!

The first step is to recognize that while it is an important part of your life, it isn’t everything. That means that when something goes wrong, it’s okay to shrug it off and move on. There are very few problems that warrant the stress we give them. One of the lies I believe the world has told us is that we need to stress out about everything that doesn’t go our way. The danger of this lie is that it causes you physical and emotional harm to stress about every little thing. It hurts you to worry yourself about things you have no control over or trivial things that won’t matter in 2 months. When you find yourself stressing this week, start following these few tips.

  1.  Get up and walk away. Walking away from the situation will help you to put the situation into perspective and to be able to handle with a clear and calm mind.
  2.  Take a sip of icy water. Always have a bottle of water at your desk. Taking small sips of water when you are stressed will help your body to calm down and fight the stresses.
  3. A technique I learned from a therapist in college is to close your eyes and breathe in for six seconds and then exhale for seven seconds. Repeat this technique until you can feel the tension and stress leave your mind. It sounds silly, but this is, without doubt, one of the best techniques I’ve ever tried.

The next thing is to think about what you want to be remembered for. Do you want to be remembered for being stressed out at work? Remembered as the person who was unhinged and constantly worried about things outside their control? Or would you rather be remembered as someone who always brought joy and happiness to those you worked with? Someone who always lent a helping hand to others and valued your needs over their own. Those traits are so much more important than high sales numbers and increased profit margins. Money comes and goes, but character makes a lasting difference. Take charge of your week and choose joy over stress.

At the end of this week, you are going to look back and say that you kicked butt this week. Remember that you are a Rockstar and God has got an incredible plan for your life.

In the hard moments, pray for wisdom and guidance. 

When you are stressed, know that God has every situation under control.

You are loved, and you got this.

xoxo– Kayla

25th Birthday Post

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Today I turn 25!

I am so excited and nervous to be getting another year older! I have spent the last few days reflecting on my 25 years. There are things that I am incredibly proud of, and areas I wish I would have done things differently. However, each moment has lead me to where I am today and for that I am eternally grateful!

In 25 years on this earth, I have learned one big lesson. That kindness, generosity, and a heart of service are what matters. I have career goals, personal goals, and a huge bucket list. But the things that I reflect on and know without a doubt I did correctly have been choosing kindness. Choosing to serve others even when I feel they don’t deserve it.

I have grown a lot over the years, but I know I still have a ways to go. Every day I am learning to confidently pursue my dreams and have faith that God’s plan is always in motion!

So today, please extend a kind and helping hand to those around you. In the end it will help not only them but you!

 

xoxo- Kayla

Fear of Being Late to the Party

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I am afraid of being late to the party.

I am afraid of being late to the party. What if I am too late to pursue the things I really want to do? What if I can’t catch up to those who are succeeding in my field? What if I can’t achieve the dream I have set in my head?

These thoughts enter my brain every time I start to think I could do more in life. I am afraid I’m too late to the party. I am too late to become anything special, and all the good ideas and companies have already been created and implemented.

Does anyone else ever get this way? You get excited about a new idea and a new goal that feels right, only to watch everyone around you seem as if they are way ahead of the game? You begin to question why; why do you have a passion for this if all the ideas have already been taken? Can you really offer something new to the world?

Well, I am here to tell you that those feelings are normal. And, I would argue this means you headed in the right direction. If you have a deep passion for something, get excited about it. If you get paralyzed by fear, it is a sign that you need to push through. Push past the fear and see what’s beyond. The things you love in life are there for a reason. If you don’t try, you will never know where you could have ended up!

So here are my tips to overcoming “the late to the party” syndrome:

Tip 1.) Believe you are UNIQUE! That means that your ideas and thoughts are uniquely yours. Don’t be afraid to show the world what only your brain could provide!

Tip 2.) Face your fears. There will always be fears in your life. There is always the fear that you won’t achieve your dreams. The question is whether or not you step up and overcome that fear. Fear has a way of paralyzing us and stopping us from moving forward. Fear of other people’s opinions of you, fear that you will make fool of yourself, or fear that you aren’t good enough. Tell yourself today that fear will not control you. You are greater than your fear. You can accomplish your goals and dreams!

Tip 3.) You aren’t too late. There is no reason you can’t go after that new job, start that business, or pursue a new hobby. Your life is whatever you want it to be! Just because others are further along in their careers, hobbies, or other dreams; has no bearing on whether or not you can accomplish your own dreams! Life isn’t a race to see who gets there first. It’s about being the best person you can be and doing your best to make the world a better place.

Tip 4.) Don’t let others say you can’t. There will always be naysayers and people who don’t believe in your dream. They will tell you that you aren’t smart enough, talented enough, or you don’t have the funds to pursue your dream. Don’t allow their thoughts to affect you. Tell yourself everyday, “I Am Made For More”. You were made for so much more than you know. Have faith in yourself and your dream.

So today, don’t believe the lie that you are too late to the party. Believe that you were uniquely created to accomplish your dreams at this time! Remember this verse from Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

xoxo — Kayla

Are You Living to Your Highest Potential?

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Are you living to your highest potential?

My husband has never wavered from pursuing his dream, no matter the cost or the time, he has pursued his dream with passion and drive. It’s one of the most amazing things you will ever see. The drive and passion he has to be a doctor is unparalleled. It’s what makes me believe that people can really find their passions in life. However, watching someone drive forward in their dreams, really makes you look inward and ask yourself, “Am I living out my dream?”

If you are, you know it. Without a shadow of a doubt. However, when you aren’t you know it as well.

Are you sitting in your cubicle questioning why you are sitting there, or are you sitting there fulfilled knowing you are in the right place?

If you are sitting there thinking, “Is this really where I will be 5 years from now?” or “Am I excited to get up and head to the office this morning?” or does the phrase, “I can’t wait to go home” come out of your mouth every day?

I think the challenge is that as you get older, you face increasing responsibility and expectations of those around you. Expectations to succeed, expectations to be extraordinary. Being ordinary, or not having remarkable success is looked down upon. How do we navigate this world?

I think there are a few ways we can look at this. We can look at life as a series of hurdles we need to cross to be successful. We can hit all our goals, hit our salary targets, start our own business, and become successful in the eyes of others.

But I think the real question we need to ask ourselves is are we happy, are we fulfilled in what we are doing?

If we aren’t what can we do to change it?

I don’t have this figured out, I’m 24 years old, 2 ½ years out of college, I can say I am still figuring everything out!

But I do have some suggestions that I have learned.

Take time to think. Don’t rush. I think the biggest hurdle I have been facing is discovering my passion “in time”. There is no time limit to finding your passion in life. Some things take longer, some things require time. That’s okay! Take your time, research the things you are interested in. It will be worth it in the end.

Finding your passion is difficult. I have spent years struggling over the fact that I couldn’t find my passion in life. When I took a class called the 12 Week Year a couple weeks ago our instructor said, “lack of passion is lack of clarity.” Nothing has hit me more than that did. If we are lacking in passion, we are lacking in clarity. We are not clearly seeing our future, we are not clearly seeing what we want to be. I have been wrestling with this statement ever since. If I lack clarity, then maybe I have a passion in life, it’s just clouded by all the noise around me.

The noise around me is what is hard to decipher, are you happy in life or just content? The noise is what can stop you from moving from content to happy. And I believe this is where I get stuck a lot. You get content, not that its bad to be content, but you stop moving forward.

. Maybe the noise is stopping you today from taking a step back and looking at your life. If it is, take a step back today and allow yourself to look at your life in perspective. Are you on the path toward your dreams and passions or are you on a path of contentment that will never allow you to reach those dreams?

Living a Life with No Regrets

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There is a question that all people eventually ask. Do you have any regrets in your life? This is a loaded question as we all make mistakes in our life, we all question which decision we should make, we all wonder if we have done the right thing. But the real question is, at the end of your life are the mistakes, wrong choices, and missed opportunities regret, or are they lessons that shaped us into the people that we are?

If we look at our life as a series of lessons instead of a life full of regrets, can we say at the end of our life that we have no regrets? Could it be a possibly that you could look back and have no regrets, to know you did the best you could with the life you were given? I believe there are a couple ways that we can change our way of thinking so that we don’t look at our life as a series of regrets.

The first thing being that we focus each day on small acts of kindness. My pastor said once that people always say, “when I have more money I will give more” or, “when I get this promotion I can volunteer more”, no matter what happens it’s always, when I. Instead of waiting for something big to happen to you, do small acts of kindness for those around you. Instead of binge watching Netflix, take that time and help your neighbor, do something kind for your spouse, volunteer at the local shelters. But putting off helping others because you don’t have time is simply an excuse you make. I make these statements as I do this every weekend. Even though I normally have all the time in the world on the weekends because my husband is studying, I still don’t get up and help those around me. Complaints of being tired, or just wanting to relax creep up in my mind every weekend. These thoughts, while they may be true, lead me to be unproductive and not utilize my full potential.

So my challenge going forward is to push myself to step out of my comfort zone and start helping those around me. I don’t want to look back at the end of my life and wonder what I could have done differently. To live a life that is meaningful and full of hope and selflessness is to live a life of no regrets. Matthew 25:45 “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’ When you take the time to help someone, you are really helping the Lord. You are only given one life, make sure you to take the time to help those around you.

The second thing you can do is stay humble. Humility goes a long way in looking back at your life with no regrets. People who spend their lives in a constant state of jealousy, who seek vengeance, who live a life full of lies and cheating to get to the top, those people will one day look back at their lives with regret for what they have done. They will regret stepping on top of someone else to achieve success, they will regret not forgiving those who have wronged them, and they will regret not being supportive to those around you. Stay humble in all circumstances, stay humble knowing that you are doing the best you can, just like everyone else around you. Ephesians 4:2 states, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”

My challenge for myself and you in this is to remember that we won’t always be the one acknowledged, we won’t always get what we want, there will always be someone out there who is prettier, smarter, and more accomplished than you. Does that mean you don’t have value? NO! But it does help to recognize that we all need to be humble and treat others with kindness and respect.

Third and finally, my suggestion is to take risks. My husband and I took a huge risk moving across the country so he could pursue his dream of going to medical school. That move took everything I had in me. I left knowing I would only see my family a couple times a year, instead of every couple weeks. I left knowing that I would miss out on big events in the lives of my friends and family. I left knowing I would have to sacrifice my nights, weekends, fun trips, and finances to help my husband to accomplish his dream. This was the biggest risk I had ever taken, and it has been hard, but it has been worth every moment. It has strengthened my marriage, it has helped me grow up, and it has truly made me grateful for every moment I get with my loved ones.

I don’t regret my decision to move out here, and I am excited instead of fearful of our moves in the future because I know that with each step, I learn and grow. With each risk, we challenge ourselves and our situation, with each risk we become a better version of ourselves.

What can you do today, that is a risk you know you should take, that you haven’t? What can you do to achieve the life you’ve always wanted? God will be there every step of the way, so walk out in faith, not in fear!

What do you do to live a life without regrets? Any advice I should implement in my own life? I’d love to hear from you!

 

Have a blessed and wonderful day!